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Transgender Complains about Being ‘Misgendered’ by Nurse While Giving Birth

'I always knew it was a possibility that my body might achieve pregnancy'

 on 22nd December 2021 @ 4.00pm
bennett kaspar williams got pregnant in march 2020 not long after transitioning © press
Bennett Kaspar-Williams got pregnant in March 2020 not long after transitioning

A pregnant transgender complained about being "misgendered" by nurses as "mom" while giving birth in the hospital.

37-year-old biological female Bennett Kaspar-Williams from Los Angeles transitioned ten years ago.

Williams, who "identifies" as male, later then married in 2019.

"I always knew it was a possibility that my body might achieve pregnancy, but it wasn't something I ever wanted to do until I learned how to separate the function of my body from any notions of gender," said Williams.

"Once I learned to think of my body as a tool and not a collection of gendered stereotypes, I realized that I could both be the person I wanted to and bring a child into the world.

"one can never really know whether having children is possible until you try - being born with a uterus doesn't make conceiving or carrying a certainty."

bennet complained about being misgendered in the hospital © press
Bennet complained about being misgendered in the hospital

"That's why it's so important that we stop defining 'womanhood' in terms of 'motherhood' because it's a false equivalency that all women can become mothers, that all mothers carry their children, or that all people who carry children are mothers," Williams added.

Williams then got pregnant in March 2020.

"We had only been trying a short while, so we expected the process to take longer than it did," said Bennett.

"This was just about a week before we went into lockdown here in March 2020, so my high spirits were pretty quickly replaced by anxiety around the pandemic and how I would keep myself and my baby safe."

 the only thing that made me dysphoric about my pregnancy was the misgendering that happened to me © press
'The only thing that made me dysphoric about my pregnancy was the misgendering that happened to me'

Bennett gave birth via cesarean section in October 2020 to a boy named Hudson.

But Bennet later complained about being "misgendered" in the hospital, saying:

"The only thing that made me dysphoric about my pregnancy was the misgendering that happened to me when I was getting medical care for my pregnancy.

"The business of pregnancy - and yes, I say business, because the entire institution of pregnancy care in America is centered around selling this concept of 'motherhood' - is so intertwined with gender that it was hard to escape being misgendered.

"Even with a full beard, a flat chest, and a 'male' gender marker on all my identification, people could not help but default to calling me 'mom,' 'mother,' or 'ma'am.'

"That was what made me dysphoric.

"Nothing about being pregnant felt 'feminine' to me - in fact, I think carrying a child, isolated due to the pandemic, and facing all the hospitals and appointments alone was the absolute toughest, bravest thing I've ever done.

"Nothing feels stronger than being able to say I'm a dad who created my own child.

"My son will no doubt accept that he came from me, just as he accepts all the other love and beauty around him - with open arms."

[READ MORE] First Transgender Family Reveals Son, 5, is Undergoing Sex Change

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